We all do them. Whether it’s to a friend, a family member, a significant other, or even someone irrelevant. We all make a comment that is an intentional “dig” to hurt someone or to make them feel some sort of way. I myself, am guilty of subliminal messages. What is the purpose of them? Why even care so much to go out of your way and waste your time on trying to make someone see something they probably already know, and see themselves? The reality…? No one really gives a shit. If anything, it makes you look stupid. Everyone gets it, and if you think for one second they don’t you are sadly mistaken. The problem with this generation is we are so quick to hide behind a “meme” or a social media site, rather than getting right to the point and saying how we truly feel. While on that, maybe sometimes stating your opinion and feelings on a situation isn’t the best route to go either.
Today I came across a status, and it took everything I had inside of me not to comment on it. You know, the one that digs right down to your core and you find it truly hilarious and disgusting at the same time? The status that has to be a joke on every level, but yet everyone seems to take it serious…? Yeah, one of those. If there is one thing I’ve learned recently, it’s that people are still going to do what they want, when they want, with who they want, all while my opinion means shit. Yes, I could have gone on a rant and made majority of the people in this particular status look, and feel like fools… However, after talking about it some I realized that the best thing for me to do was to keep my mouth shut and my fingers still. Did I write a subliminal post instead? Absolutely. Why? I lowered my maturity level and took a time hop back to high school. I couldn’t just let it be what it was, I had to say something! You know the even funnier part?? I bet that the people I made the post for knew exactly what I was talking about. After all, subliminal messages aren’t so subliminal, are they?
I have come to find that I like the honest, blunt me. Yes, some of the things that come out of my mouth are savage, but at the end of the day my words only have meaning when ones gives them meaning. If there is no truth in what I say, one cannot be bothered… right? Wrong! Instead, I’ll have to just pick and choose my battles. Some battles aren’t worth fighting, while others need to be knocked off their high horse, and slapped back into reality. This is not the Wild West. Hopefully it doesn’t come to that but when and if the opportunity arises, I will see how I’m feeling. Today, I was humble. Next time, one may not be so lucky.
The crazy downside to all of this is when a person gets right to the point, no subliminal message needed, they become an asshole. The bad guy. Why is that? Is it because the truth hurts? Then, I find to notice when a person throws an intentional dig, it is counteracted with another dig. In this case the world becomes blind to what the world is really supposed to be; To love and be loved. Silently bashing a person or situation has become the new trend, and it will never stop. When it does start to simmer down, that will be because more people are sticking up and speaking up for how they truly feel. Why not do more of that? Why sugar coat anything really? It’s your life, your happiness.
With this blog, I urge you to be more of yourself. Rock to the beat of your drum more, rather than being in someone else’s band. Even if your hands are shaky and inexperienced, with patience and practice you’ll have a sick beat. If you have a problem with something, address it in a kindly manner. No one said to say it like a cold-hearted creature, but please do, get your point across. People know how to treat and respect you by the way you treat and respect yourself and others. I’m not saying because you are an honest person, that others will be as open an honest either. Honesty is an expensive gift that you can’t expect from cheap people. I have been digging deep into my soul lately. I still make mistakes, I am human. I am learning though, as we all should. I think there comes a time in life when you realize what and who matters, and what and who never did. Instead of letting irrelevant things bring you on a time hop back to high school, lets just stay in the here and now while working to better yourself and those around you. Instead of not liking something and throwing a dig out there, realize that you really don’t have to say anything at all. Sometimes the best answer is no answer, where no one can mistake your silence for ignorance. Open your mind, accept what is, and live above the hate.